Finding out that you’re going to be a father is a life changing moment. Whether you’ve been nervous for this moment for years, or you’ve been holding your breath to hear news like this, you’re in for the ride!
Of course, every parent is different but almost every father goes through the same motions once they find out that they’re going to be a father. Getting prepared for fatherhood is something that you’re probably already thinking about. Of course, just like mothers, it’s nearly impossible to feel completely ready to be a parent.
Here is our guide to getting ready to be a wonderful father to your beautiful baby girl or boy!
Read And Do Your Research!
You may not be the one who is actually carrying the baby, but you’re still going to be the parent of your child. So it’s very important to get ahead and get involved in the experience.
Just like you would do to prepare for any big moment in your life, doing your research is one of the most efficient ways to get some insight into fatherhood. There are so many dad books, articles, and blogs out there that will give you the information you need to feel prepared -- and simply just know what to expect.
Educating yourself about many things from how to change a diaper or how to keep your baby safe will make you feel more at ease and more excited too! One important tip is to research things about pregnancy itself, which will give you a better idea of how the mother is doing. Being aware of common pregnancy symptoms, discomforts, breastfeeding, foods to avoid, and the labour process will help you be a part of the pregnancy and make the mother feel more comfortable as well.
Get healthy… And Stay Healthy!
Now is your chance for some me time! Once your baby arrives, your workout routine and other activities aren’t going to come as a first priority anymore. Take advantage of the time you have right now to get yourself into shape and achieve any of the goals you have set out for yourself.
It’s also important to get healthy for the sake of your baby, and their health. If you smoke, it’s a good idea to try to quit that habit. Exposure to smoke during pregnancy can be harmful and can increase the chances of health defects in newborn babies.
Take a moment to think about your eating habits. Do you watch what you eat and eat energy-fueling foods? Well, get used to it. Once you have your baby, you’re gonna need all the energy and strength you can get. Eating well now will prepare you for the long days and nights that you will experience during parenthood. Adding foods that are more rich in fibre and immune-boosting will add that extra kick in your meals and in your overall day.
You’re going to be someone your child looks up to. As a father, the health and safety of your baby is the most important thing… so start with your own!
Be A Team Player
Now is the time to focus on being a parent alongside your co-parent. The important discussions about parenting styles and what kind of parents you plan to be will start to come up. For example, when will both of you be working? What are your plans for childcare? Who is going to stay up when the baby can’t sleep?
Of course, things may change once the baby arrives but it’s a good idea to get these ideas out in the air so you can both be on the same page.
Speaking of being on the same page… Now is the time to be a team player and think of yourselves as a team! No matter the terms of your relationship with your co-parent, it’s important to stay focused on the child and coming together for that child.
Of course life is going to start getting busy and maybe a little chaotic. It’s very important to stay true to your roots and do the things you love. This includes spending time with your family and friends. Something you may find yourself doing is connecting with other fellow dads because they completely understand your situation and the challenges that can come along with it.
You may need to vent or ask important questions at times. Your friends in fatherhood (or parenthood in general) will be there by your side to help!
Don’t Worry Too Much -- Just Be Yourself
There’s no doubting the challenges and the worry you’re going to have on this journey. But take it one day at a time and don’t be too hard on yourself. Embrace every second of fatherhood and take advantage of those baby milestones because those are the amazing memories that you’ll remember forever!
Believe in yourself and remember that you are going to be one of the most important people in your baby’s life and an amazing father!